Are you my Mommy?

Are you my Mommy?
Are you my Mommy?

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Almost most things

Tonight's post is an autobiographical tale of how this all began.  I never thought blogger would be a word to describe me, but having Mr. B inspired me.  Not him exactly but my thwarted efforts to find the information I needed to fulfill mothering the way I imagined. 
I have a problem with knowing too much. I crave information and I get nervous and skiddish in any situation where I can not access information I need.  The problem began with wanting to go the non-traditional route.  Cloth Diapering, Breastfeeding exclusively, Homemade Babyfood, Vegetarian food, Natural Childbirth, etc...The most important thing might be the etc since researching these topics led to information that inspired other pursuits.  Now I bake sourdough bread for my family, make some of our crackers, make our yogurt, and I am fascinated by lacto fermintation although have not yet added it to the repetoire.  So, how to do all this and maintain good health and time with my son.  My theory was that research would lead me to the easiest and quickest ways to accomplish all...I was naive.  So, I research when I can and when I can't I try what I think will work.  I feel a sense of responsibilty on this non-traditional path to give advice to others that I could not find and to give courage to all of you to find the compromises that work for your family.  I have actually found some of my unusual choices to be easier than the norm.  Cloth diapering may sound daunting, but it saves me kidding here.  The washer takes care of cleaning with just two cycles and another rinse.  I can either dry in machine or line dry.  Mr. B is 14 months old and I have already saved money.  The bonus is that I never have to run to the store because I ran out of diapers which to me is the true savings as I dislike shopping and less trips to the store means no impulse shopping to waste money.
I realize I can't do everything, so I compromise at times and sometimes I sacrifice.  A little less sleep for the enjoyment of fresh homemade sourdough the next day is worth it to me. 
How I make choices?  I describe myself as almost a lot of things (because mothering require compromises whether or not moms admit it)...almost vegetarian, green, homemade food for my family, SAHM, frugal, chemical free/natural home, etc. When I am trying a new change to how I mother, I tend to continue if it fits at least two of the above list and especially if I find enjoyment in it.  For example, cloth diapering is green, exposes Mr. B to less chemicals, and saves money.  Making bread for my family is all those things, but also I love doing it.  That story begins with my mom teaching me to knead dough and bake and savor a slice of bread fresh from the oven.  She is more wise and spiritual than probably even she realizes...Hi Mom!

So in a nutshell, I am the Compromising Mother because my brain thinks too much and wants more than I can accomplish.  So, I am finding the choices that work for my family and blogging about it, hoping to inspire, help, or at least make you laugh.

Thoughtfully tonight,

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